Showing my true, real self is hard. Bullied, teased, made fun of for who you really were is hard to come from. That's why people put up walls, barriers, masks, to hide behind. They're afraid that people will do it again, just like the people before.
It is what it is. This is what I've been saying for years. If you don't get an explanation, you don't have to worry how to react to the lie. They did something wrong. They haven't changed in 40 years, they certainly won't now, so why listen to the garbage they justify it with... which will always be why their actions are someone else's fault. #narcabuserecovery