See this is what bothers me about all self-help, recovery, New Age crap: When the bud was a bud, it wasn't struggling to be a flower. Nin's view here is a human looking-back view that explains old pain and struggle, while still not embracing responsibility. BE the bud and then BE the flower, but remember: Flower not better than bud.
2 Timothy 1:7
Wake up early. Drink coffee. Work hard. Be ambitious. Keep your priorities straight, your mind right and your head up. Do well, live well and dress really well. Do what you love, love what you do. It’s time to start living.